However, the new self and world that we imagine must belong not to an ideal world, but only to the real. The alternative is an absolute ideal — of goodness or purity or holiness or health — that may have nothing to do with the flesh and blood existence of human beings… ‘[A]bsolutizing instinct’ is the enemy of the human and of hope, leading to a world of false hope, and investing certain aspects of life, especially the moment of death, with an importance disproportionate to their actual wealth in the whole of life.

— Paul G. Crowley, Unwanted Wisdom (2005), citing also William Lynch, Images of Hope (1963)