[T]he magic comes paradoxically: If you are looking for feeling in control, you won’t find it. Your job is simply to do your work: to practice wanting frequent episodes of strong sensations or doubt that last a while.
“So look for discomfort, look for a feeling of doubt, hope that they will stick around and feel strong, and be surprised when you eventually get positive results. Start seeking out opportunities to get uncomfortable. That’s how you should think about threatening events–as opportunities.
– Reid Wilson, Ph.D., DON’T PANIC (3rd edition 2009)